Community Guidelines
I. Guidelines for interacting with each other
Deviance is a peaceful and respectful place
We expect our members to abide by our rules of conduct and content, which in turn are subject to our Terms of Use. So please read both carefully.
Adults only
You must be of legal age to sign up for Deviance. If you are not, please get in touch with the SMJG, a nationwide German organisation for young people into BDSM, who will answer all your questions and show you other ways to meet people.
No sex offenders
Convicted sex offenders, or people charged with a sexual offence, may not create a profile on Deviance. If you think you may have come across such a person, please let us know immediately.
Don’t out anyone
Deviance is a safe space for everyone who can’t or doesn’t want to be open about their preferences elsewhere. If you come across someone from your family, circle of friends or workplace, please keep it to yourself. It is up to each person how much they reveal about themselves and whether they come out or not. Most people have good reasons for the latter.
What’s private stays private
What other members reveal about themselves in private conversations, and the content you exchange, is your private business and must not be shared either. Not in words, in writing or in pictures. As long as nobody misbehaves, the conversation is between the two of you and no one else.
Be kind to each other
You can’t agree with everyone, and you can’t please everyone either. Still, always stay polite. Personal, insulting, aggressive or racist attacks, criminal accusations or defamation, bullying and any other kind of disrespectful behaviour have no place in dating either. If the person you’re talking to breaks these rules of conduct, don’t hesitate to report them to us straight away.
No kink-shaming
The BDSM spectrum is endless, and you will come across all kinds of preferences. Including ones you can’t relate to. But what someone likes and doesn’t like is highly subjective. Meet others with an open mind and without prejudice, and remember how you would feel if you were the one being kink-shamed.
Your own content only
Only upload images and texts you hold the rights to: because you took or wrote them yourself, because you are the person shown, or because you have the express permission of the rights holder. Violations of personality rights or copyright will lead, at the very least, to the content being deleted.
No fake profiles
Creating several profiles or pretending to be someone else won’t improve your dating chances. Quite the opposite: duplicate accounts are deleted immediately, and nobody has ever understood fake profiles anyway.
No offers of money
Deviance is a place for private contacts. Commercial ads and commercial solicitations are prohibited. Please use external platforms for that kind of content, and use Deviance exclusively for private, consensual contacts. This also applies to findoms and fans.
II. Guidelines for image and text content
No minors and no animals
Children, minors and animals must not appear in photos or texts. To avoid misunderstandings, not even in seemingly harmless contexts such as family photos or pictures from your last dog walk. This also applies to fiction, allusions, symbolic language, emojis, graphics and motifs referring to children, young people or animals. If the abuse of minors or animals comes up in any way in a private conversation, please report that person immediately.
A peaceful place for kinks
Inhumane, discriminatory, racist, homophobic, transphobic and ableist statements, allusions or motifs have no place on Deviance.
No nudes or genitals
Nude pictures and images of genitals in a dating profile are sexual harassment and will therefore be removed. Sending such pictures unsolicited in private conversations constitutes the unlawful distribution of pornographic material and can even be reported to the police.
No depiction or description of explicit acts in your profile
Because that is sexual harassment too. Even if the people shown are clothed, or it’s a story in text form that you consider erotic. We are just as strict about this as we are about nude pictures.
No violent imagery or extreme practices
Depicting, describing or even hinting at violence and extreme practices is strictly prohibited. This includes death, mutilation, rape (including role-played rape, a.k.a. rape play), faeces, incest, blood, wounds and more.
Say no to drugs
Promoting drugs, intoxicants or illegal substances of any kind, openly or covertly, is strictly prohibited. This also applies to fiction, allusions, symbolic language, emojis, graphics and motifs referring to drugs, intoxicants or other illegal substances.
No contact details or other online profiles
To protect our members, we don’t allow contact details such as addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, or user profiles on social networks and messengers to be publicly visible on Deviance.
No advertising, promotion or appeals
Our users are here to make personal connections through online dating. That’s why we don’t tolerate any kind of advertising, promotion or appeals: not for selling goods and services, nor for promoting events or other websites/apps, fundraising, demonstrations, missing-person notices, chain letters, recruiting or the like. This also applies to off-topic advertising. If you would like to advertise on Deviance, contact us at [email protected]. Together, and transparently, we’ll find a way.
III. Reporting violations
We do everything to make Deviance a safe, peaceful and respectful place. If you encounter any violations of our Terms of Use or community guidelines, please don’t hesitate to contact us immediately, either via the report form on the platform or by email to [email protected].
Please note that processing may take some time.
IV. Questions, suggestions, wishes?
Would you like to give us feedback, or do you have suggestions, questions or a technical problem? Then get in touch with us using the contact form. We look forward to hearing from you.