Find Your Play Partner

The meeting platform for BDSM and fetish enthusiasts

From the community, for the community.

Already more than 28.000 members!

Get personalized suggestions every day

Let yourself be inspired! Based on your preferences, you’ll receive new matching profiles every day. Discover exciting matches without having to search for hours.

Search and filter profiles by roles, kinks, and other preferences

Find exactly what you’re looking for. Our detailed filters let you search specifically for roles, kinks, or other preferences – for connections that truly match your desires.

See right away who wants to play with you

Curious who finds you interesting? Instantly see which profiles liked you and decide who you’d like to get to know better. No endless swiping or guessing games. This way, you can dive into real conversations and see if there’s chemistry.

Show, that you really mean it

Express your interest with Likes or Superlikes and stand out with personal ads. That way, you’ll get noticed – and get faster responses from those who truly match your vibe.

No bots, no fake profiles. Just real people. Like you.

Real people, real encounters. Verification builds trust and safety in the community. And you can show that you’re truly you. That’s how real connections with real potential begin.

Consent comes first. Even in your inbox.

No unwanted messages. Contact is only possible with mutual interest. This keeps communication respectful and mutual – no spam, no harassment.

Premium features for an even deeper experience

Liking, matching, chatting: Deviance is free. But with five Premium features, you can boost your chances. Use advanced filters, see who liked you, boost your profile, send Superlikes, or place ads. For more matches and deeper connections.

What our users say

“I love this amazing BDSM dating platform. I’ve already had plenty of great conversations and met some nice guys… 👌

And maybe I’ve finally hit THE jackpot ❤️😉“‘

lady_aurely

on X

“I just want to say a huuuge thank you to all of you. After only about a week, I found the person who now means everything to me. And not just in the BDSM world. Without you, we probably never would’ve met, even though we’d lived in the same city for years.”

rhinevillage

Message on X

“In my opinion, the first useful platform for BDSM dating.”

Comment on Jodel

“Simply because I’m so incredibly happy right now, here’s another shoutout for Deviance:

I’ve been unbelievably happy for 3 months now, and our kinks align so perfectly. We never would have met without Deviance.
Thank you 😍”

_Anna_Amanda_

on X

“A wonderful place to connect! I’ve made so many valuable and inspiring connections here and the interaction is very respectful. For me, Deviance is a safe space where I extend my feelers a bit further and together with some of the Deviance contacts, to make fantasies become reality.”

Tinka

via e-mail

“Thanks to you, I met the most amazing sub I could have wished for, and since Tuesday, we’re in the early stages of a relationship. So right from the start, your BDSM dating has already created at least one love story.

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️”

LadyNora_B

on X

“I’m speechless, seriously. I can only say thank you. I’m taking a look on your website and I love the way you give informations about bondage, movies, music and other things. Finally a right way to approach BDSM dating. I will subscribe on your page. One more time. Thank you.”

@shibari_music

Bondage-Influencer

“I really like this slow BDSM dating idea from Deviance. The concept works perfectly for me: I consciously take my time to look through profiles, and when I get a match, I’m more patient in connecting with the other person because I’m not already searching elsewhere in parallel.”

exp_liz_it

on X

We want people who are unknowingly hiding from each other to find each other.

Education, safe, healthy and consensual practices are what we deeply care for.

What drives us

Our mission is to get BDSM, kink and fetish out of the dirty corner, to give the lifestyle a new attractive face and to promote destigmatization.

What we stand up for

In a world where alternative lifestyles that were considered repulsive just a few years ago are becoming increasingly accepted, it’s time for our lifestyle to be met with greater openness as well.

BDSM dating on Deviance: how it works