Degradation is one of the most common BDSM clichés we encounter, but what exactly does it entail and what does it actually mean?
Degradation: Between sinking into the ground and flying high
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Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?
Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?
Getting off on consent in 5 steps
Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
Breathtakingly beautiful: Breath play
Breath play, or breath control, is one of the most popular but also most dangerous BDSM practices. But what forms and dangers are there?
Queer: a change of perspective
When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
STI and STD Part III: Misconceptions and clichés
There are a lot of misconceptions about sexually transmitted infections. It’s time to clear up a few, because the best prevention is still education.
The blackmailing game
In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
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