The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.
Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code
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Basics
What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?
D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.
Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?
Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Edge play – thrilling experiences near boundaries
In BDSM, edge play refers to practices that involve certain risks to the body or psyche. Games on the edge of the abyss, so to speak.
Dom drop: Those who fly high can fall low
Despite all precautions, things don’t always go smoothly in BDSM. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a dom drop and what causes it.
Sub drop: reaching the lowest point
Despite all precautions, BDSM doesn’t always go smoothly. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a sub drop and what causes it.
Queer: a change of perspective
When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
How to get covered properly
" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
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