Labels provide security, and Germans in particular are known for wanting to standardize everything and call it by name. Why this can sometimes be annoying in BDSM…
Labels and why they are overrated
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Folsom Street Fair: From Leatherman to Pride
Folsom Pride is like a Christopher Street Day for the BDSM and fetish scene. The Berlin branch is called Folsom Europe and takes place every year in September.
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What is a fetish party? What happens there and how much does it have to do with BDSM? Can I play there too? Find out in this article what awaits you there.
Intox play: Is it BDSM?
Intox Play and Chemsex are currently big topics in the sex-positive community. But can playing under the influence of drugs even be considered BDSM?
BDSM and Pride: Should kink be part of the parade?
Does BDSM belong at Pride? A question that has been much discussed for years. Here are the arguments for and against, as well as a few possible solutions.
Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code
The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.
BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
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