Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
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16 questions to ask your date
Conversations are sometimes not an easy matter, especially on BDSM dates. Here are 16 questions that will put your date through their paces.
Talking about preferences: “And what are you into?”
Talking about preferences, inclinations, and fetishes can be daunting, feel unfamiliar, and evoke feelings of shame. Here are seven ideas.
8 points for your safety when dating
When two or more people engage in BDSM, the issue of personal safety should be anything but neglected.
The best and safest locations for your first date
Dating location: The first date in BDSM always brings some difficulties with it. One of them is choosing a suitable location.
BDSM symbols: Recognizable signs in everyday life
As is common in many subcultures, BDSM sympathizers also use symbols to identify themselves to like-minded people in everyday life. But which symbols mean what?
The Ring of O – History and meaning
The Ring of O gained its importance with the film adaptation of the “Story of the O”. Today the ring is a symbol of BDSM adherents all over the world.
Behind the shadows: What is FetLife actually?
You might have heard of FetLife before but couldn’t find it online? We’ll explain why.
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