Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
Getting off on consent in 5 steps
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Safety
Dom drop: Those who fly high can fall low
Despite all precautions, things don’t always go smoothly in BDSM. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a dom drop and what causes it.
Breathtakingly beautiful: Breath play
Breath play, or breath control, is one of the most popular but also most dangerous BDSM practices. But what forms and dangers are there?
Sub drop: reaching the lowest point
Despite all precautions, BDSM doesn’t always go smoothly. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a sub drop and what causes it.
STI and STD Part III: Misconceptions and clichés
There are a lot of misconceptions about sexually transmitted infections. It’s time to clear up a few, because the best prevention is still education.
Like a boss – 6 approaches to handle a drop
If the mood shifts during BDSM, it can lead to a drop. We’ll show you 6 possible approaches on how to deal with this situation.
How to get covered properly
" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
6 questions to ask before playing
You’re not in top shape every day. Physically and psychologically. 6 questions that will help make your BDSM session a successful experience.
STI and STD Part V: safer sex and BDSM
Due to a wide range of practices, the risk of transmission is particularly high in BDSM. Find out what you need for safer sex here.
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