In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
The blackmailing game
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Candles in BDSM: things to consider
Candles are used in BDSM within wax play. But be careful! There are several things to consider when buying and using them.
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
How to find the right strapon
Finding the right strapon in the jungle of options isn’t always easy. Femdom and Deviance author Lynn gives tips on how to find the right model.
Session: it’s time to play!
What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
Ball gag: The most popular way to gag
A ball gag is the best-known form of gag and usually consists of a rubber ball and a strap for attachment. But what should you pay attention to?
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Strapon – Putting the ‘fun’ in functional
A strapon, also known as a “strap-on dildo,” allows individuals without a penis to penetrate others in the desired manner.
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