What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
Session: it’s time to play!
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Ball gag: The most popular way to gag
A ball gag is the best-known form of gag and usually consists of a rubber ball and a strap for attachment. But what should you pay attention to?
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Strapon – Putting the ‘fun’ in functional
A strapon, also known as a “strap-on dildo,” allows individuals without a penis to penetrate others in the desired manner.
Keeps its impact inside: The punishment book
A punishment book can be used within a BDSM relationship to record any misbehavior. The submissive person usually enters these themselves.
Deep insights: labia spreader
Labia spreaders are inserted into the vagina so that the vulva and clitoris are exposed and offer a variety of interesting play options.
Plug in and find out
The butt plug is a popular toy not only in BDSM. We explain what the toy is all about and how to use it.
Ruined orgasm – Hands off!
A ruined orgasm is a practice where a person experiences climax without satisfaction. Find out here how to ruin an orgasm.
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