When people talk about red flags in BDSM, they usually want to warn submissive people. But not all subs are lovely angels.
8 red flags Doms should watch out for with Subs
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16 questions to ask your date
Conversations are sometimes not an easy matter, especially on BDSM dates. Here are 16 questions that will put your date through their paces.
Talking about preferences: “And what are you into?”
Talking about preferences, inclinations, and fetishes can be daunting, feel unfamiliar, and evoke feelings of shame. Here are seven ideas.
8 points for your safety when dating
When two or more people engage in BDSM, the issue of personal safety should be anything but neglected.
The best and safest locations for your first date
Dating location: The first date in BDSM always brings some difficulties with it. One of them is choosing a suitable location.
BDSM symbols: Recognizable signs in everyday life
As is common in many subcultures, BDSM sympathizers also use symbols to identify themselves to like-minded people in everyday life. But which symbols mean what?
Of wishing and wanting
Wishes and BDSM fantasies can sometimes be quite wild. However, author Margaux Navara wishes especially for beginners that these are not fulfilled at first.
How to start with BDSM as a couple
What if one partner expresses a desire to try BDSM fantasies? How do you go about it? A guide for BDSM beginners.
9 repurposed items from the hardware store
Hardware stores offer amazing options, especially for those with smaller BDSM wallets, when it comes to repurposing items for kinky purposes.
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