A breakup is never pleasant, whether BDSM is involved or not. But how do I best end things when it’s no longer working out? A brief guide.
BDSM breakup – But with fairness and respect
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BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
How to create a kinky dating profile
Indeed, dating profiles offer the opportunity to reveal more about one’s personality than offline interactions. Here are our tips.
Getting off on consent in 5 steps
Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
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" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
6 questions to ask before playing
You’re not in top shape every day. Physically and psychologically. 6 questions that will help make your BDSM session a successful experience.
8 tips for good profile pictures on Deviance
When online dating, your profile picture is crucial. How do I take a good selfie and how can I score points on a BDSM platform?
How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
10 red flags that Subs should pay attention to with Doms
There are specific red flags that can be observed again and again in submissive or dominant personalities. This article is dedicated to “Dangerous Dominants”.
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