Who hasn’t been there? You have an interesting match, but the spark for the first message just isn’t there. A topic that the podcast “Die Kunst der Unvernunft” has also explored.
How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.
Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Pony play may seem very bizarre to outsiders, yet it’s a popular aspect of BDSM. Nighty Swifthoof is a human horse and let us slip into his hooves.
When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
How does a vanilla perceive BDSM? Marcel has never had any exposure to the topic. I wonder what kind of image he has of us kinksters?
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
Nobody had to say to me, “That’s perverted!” counter-emotional. I knew that others would label my sexual behavior as perverted.
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Most people have probably heard of the legendary KitKat Club in Berlin – a place where kink, art, and body culture meet, standing as a symbol of radical freedom. That’s exactly how photographer and filmmaker Sahin Dellemann describes it. And it’s there, on August 9, that Dellemann will present his…
If you’ve ever browsed through BDSM forums or erotic bios on social media, you may have come across the term SPH. It stands for Small Penis Humiliation, a kink that centers around the intentional humiliation of a man or penis-owning person for having a (supposedly) small penis. While it may…
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Feminization describes a BDSM roleplay that plays with gender roles and power dynamics. But isn’t that actually misogynistic?
Playparty: An event for BDSM and fetish where people play, explore, and observe. What happens there, who can attend, and what should be considered?
A guide for your BDSM coming out: tips for self-acceptance, the right time and place, and support for a respectful conversation.
Tying doesn't always require two. Even tying yourself up alone can unlock new heights of pleasure – as long as you keep some safety aspects in mind.
AB/DL is a fascinating kink where adults take on the role of babies. However, it is not about an interest in children.
TPE means total power exchange in BDSM relationships. Consent, responsibility, and clear communication are even more important here.
Kinky, creative, curious: Obscene 2025 brought ropes, shows, and exciting newcomers. Our highlights from the fair in Karlsruhe.