A Spanker enjoys beating others in erotic play. Find out here what the attraction behind this type of play is and who matches it.
Spanker – passionate Top with a knack for impact
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The term “subspace” is not about the universe but about BDSM. It refers to a trance-like state where the real self dissociates from the role-playing personality…
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Objectification is a BDSM practice in which a person is viewed as an object for erotic purposes. Learn here what makes it so appealing.
Tunnel play: until the (bitter) end
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Punish me! The punishment in BDSM
Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.
The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
Christopher Street Day: A brief history
The origin of Christopher Street Day is an uprising by homosexuals against police arbitrariness. Today parades take place all over the world. An overview of history.
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