Although “Dom” is gender-neutral, the term is still often associated with male dominance, which is why the specific term “Femdom” emerged.
Roles
Sadomasochist – It’s all about the pain
Talking about BDSM, the word “sadomasochist” quickly comes up. But it’s not that simple because it’s a role that is very body-oriented and a bit more narrowly defined.
Spanko – loves spanks in every aspect
Spanko is derived from “spanking,” meaning “to hit.” So, a Spanko is into spanking in the BDSM context, both as the giver and receiver.
Longing for security: Little
In BDSM jargon, a Little is a person who likes to adopt toddler-like behavior and is looking for a parental figure of reference.
Primal – Wild thing, you make my heart sing
“Primal” is a BDSM practice in which participants fully embrace their animalistic instincts, including biting, scratching, and grunting.
Keyholder – Playing the key role
Keyholders in BDSM are tops who hold the key to a chastity belt or similar device, thereby controlling the pleasure of another person.
The term Hotwife or Cuckoldress
Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance.
Switch – Two souls in one chest?
As a switch in BDSM, it’s important that you don’t let people tell you that you have to choose the dominant or submissive side.
Spanker – passionate Top with a knack for impact
A Spanker enjoys beating others in erotic play. Find out here what the attraction behind this type of play is and who matches it.
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