Does BDSM belong at Pride? A question that has been much discussed for years. Here are the arguments for and against, as well as a few possible solutions.
BDSM and Pride: Should kink be part of the parade?
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Christopher Street Day: A brief history
The origin of Christopher Street Day is an uprising by homosexuals against police arbitrariness. Today parades take place all over the world. An overview of history.
Vanilla? Really?
Many people are into BDSM without realizing it. Yet, much of what is practiced in the so-called vanilla realm often has nothing to do with consent anymore.
A love letter to the sense of shame
When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
BDSM and family – Interview with X blogger NikSput
How can family, open marriage and BDSM be reconciled? It’s all a question of organization, says X blogger NikSput in this interview.
Vanilla view: an interview about BDSM
How does a vanilla perceive BDSM? Marcel has never had any exposure to the topic. I wonder what kind of image he has of us kinksters?
Clichés and myths about BDSM – stop it!
Everyone knows them: the typical BDSM clichés. But is there any truth to them? And where do such prejudices come from? We took a closer look at that.
Two diaper fetishists talk openly
There are so many clichés about the diaper fetish. To clear up some of these, we interviewed two diaper fetishists.
Diagnosis: Sadomasochism. Do i have a disorder?
BDSM is often seen as a deviation from the norm, but who defines and determines what is “normal” anyway? Guest author Cassie did some research.
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