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Fetish party: Champagne or dark dungeons?
A fetish event is anything but grubby. Here, the BDSM scene celebrates! Organizer Christian explains what matters.
Folsom Street Fair: From Leatherman to Pride
Folsom Pride is like a Christopher Street Day for the BDSM and fetish scene. The Berlin branch is called Folsom Europe and takes place every year in September.
Hoofbeats and heartbeats: Nighty Swifthoof from stable to spotlight
Pony play may seem very bizarre to outsiders, yet it’s a popular aspect of BDSM. Nighty Swifthoof is a human horse and let us slip into his hooves.
BDSM and Pride: Should kink be part of the parade?
Does BDSM belong at Pride? A question that has been much discussed for years. Here are the arguments for and against, as well as a few possible solutions.
Christopher Street Day: A brief history
The origin of Christopher Street Day is an uprising by homosexuals against police arbitrariness. Today parades take place all over the world. An overview of history.
Vanilla? Really?
Many people are into BDSM without realizing it. Yet, much of what is practiced in the so-called vanilla realm often has nothing to do with consent anymore.
A love letter to the sense of shame
When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
BDSM and family – Interview with X blogger NikSput
How can family, open marriage and BDSM be reconciled? It’s all a question of organization, says X blogger NikSput in this interview.
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