How does a vanilla perceive BDSM? Marcel has never had any exposure to the topic. I wonder what kind of image he has of us kinksters?
Vanilla view: an interview about BDSM
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Clichés and myths about BDSM – stop it!
Everyone knows them: the typical BDSM clichés. But is there any truth to them? And where do such prejudices come from? We took a closer look at that.
Plug in and find out
The butt plug is a popular toy not only in BDSM. We explain what the toy is all about and how to use it.
Bondage tape – Non stop fun on a roll
What is bondage tape? Why do you use it in BDSM and what do you have to consider when playing with it? A small introduction to this popular bondage alternative.
Kitteh – Language-controlled writing offender
Crush a few taboos under Pleaser heels like smoked cigarettes after sex. Deviance author Kitteh on why she writes about BDSM.
Sadism: The second S in BDSM
Sadism refers to the often sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain. Where does it come from and how is sadism practiced in BDSM?
Fetish & Fashion – Who inspires whom?
Fetish and fashion have always influenced each other. A story about the relationship between designers and the BDSM subculture.
Am I a pervert? – (Entertaining) thoughts
Nobody had to say to me, “That’s perverted!” counter-emotional. I knew that others would label my sexual behavior as perverted.
Perverse – wrong, twisted, unacceptable?
The term “perverse” originally means “turned around” or “reversed”. The adjective is often used in a sexual context.
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