Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
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Kinky – a bend in sexuality
In general language usage, “kinky” describes sexual practices, concepts, or fantasies that are considered unusual by the majority.
The Ring of O – History and meaning
The Ring of O gained its importance with the film adaptation of the “Story of the O”. Today the ring is a symbol of BDSM adherents all over the world.
Bull and Cuckcake: The third wheel?
In BDSM, a bull or cuckcake is the third person in a cuckold dynamic who performs sexual acts with the dominant person.
How to start with BDSM as a couple
What if one partner expresses a desire to try BDSM fantasies? How do you go about it? A guide for BDSM beginners.
9 repurposed items from the hardware store
Hardware stores offer amazing options, especially for those with smaller BDSM wallets, when it comes to repurposing items for kinky purposes.
Behind the shadows: What is FetLife actually?
You might have heard of FetLife before but couldn’t find it online? We’ll explain why.
Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.
A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.
The popular term “Sub”
The popular term Sub emphasizes the character components of bottom players. How the role is lived is highly individual. The most important thing is the attitude.
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