Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance.
The term Hotwife or Cuckoldress
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Ageplay – innocent game or perverted?
Ageplay represents a BDSM role-playing game in which the participants pretend to be a different age than they actually are. Particularly popular: DDLG
Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?
Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.
Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean
A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.
How to find out if someone is into BDSM
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
How to create a kinky dating profile
Indeed, dating profiles offer the opportunity to reveal more about one’s personality than offline interactions. Here are our tips.
Marina – Struggle at stigma level 5
“If I ever stop working with food, I’ll build a Tinder for BDSM!” Marina, founder of Deviance, explains how a joke turned into something serious.
Aftercare – What it comes down to
Aftercare refers to the mutual psychological and emotional support of the players immediately after a BDSM session by talking about and reflecting on the experience.
Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
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