How does a vanilla perceive BDSM? Marcel has never had any exposure to the topic. I wonder what kind of image he has of us kinksters?
Vanilla view: an interview about BDSM
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Clichés and myths about BDSM – stop it!
Everyone knows them: the typical BDSM clichés. But is there any truth to them? And where do such prejudices come from? We took a closer look at that.
Two diaper fetishists talk openly
There are so many clichés about the diaper fetish. To clear up some of these, we interviewed two diaper fetishists.
Diagnosis: Sadomasochism. Do i have a disorder?
BDSM is often seen as a deviation from the norm, but who defines and determines what is “normal” anyway? Guest author Cassie did some research.
The term “Slave” in the context of BDSM
Why “Slave” should no longer be used as a BDSM term in public spaces. A guest post from blogger and Twitterer Poly.
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
Kitteh – Language-controlled writing offender
Crush a few taboos under Pleaser heels like smoked cigarettes after sex. Deviance author Kitteh on why she writes about BDSM.
KatKristall – Kinkucation with glitter
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
Lynn – From a dingy dungeon to a wine bar
“A refined evening among friends, who just happen to all be a bit kinky.” Why Lynn, author in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
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