“If I ever stop working with food, I’ll build a Tinder for BDSM!” Marina, founder of Deviance, explains how a joke turned into something serious.
Marina – Struggle at stigma level 5
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Stories
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
“It’s the rage that motivates me to stand up for the BDSM community.” Why Lea, web and app developer in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
Fetish & Fashion – Who inspires whom?
Fetish and fashion have always influenced each other. A story about the relationship between designers and the BDSM subculture.
Am I a pervert? – (Entertaining) thoughts
Nobody had to say to me, “That’s perverted!” counter-emotional. I knew that others would label my sexual behavior as perverted.
#Latexfetish – An interview with Frau Tagtraum
Frau Tagtraum has been fully embracing her latex fetish in the BDSM scene for many years. She sat down with Deviance for an interview.
Constant dripping brings the moan: wax play
Candlelight has always been associated with romance and the bedroom. So, it was only a matter of time before people started playing with wax.
Attention, this is a control! About orgasms and sensitivity
Controlling your orgasm is a bit like baking frozen pizza. At some point you just have the feeling when the time is right.
The inner struggle
Can I find this hot? Am I allowed to enjoy it? Blogger Katharina-Sophie from Sub-Space on inner struggle and societal chains.
#NormalizeBDSM
BDSM is sick? No, says blogger Katharina-Sophie and demands: Normalize BDSM! However, some vanillas may see it differently.
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