BDSM and drugs, both promise a high. But these extremes do not belong together. In this article, you’ll find a concentrated load of raised index fingers.
Say no to drugs! Especially to BDSM and drugs…
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Dealing with a break-up: Goodbye my BDSM lover
Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?
Play with yourself: Ideas for kinky masturbation
For BDSM, you need at least two people, right? Can masturbation even be kinky? You bet! Here are a few ideas.
Help, the person I like is not kinky!
Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Your profile text – How to type right!
In online dating, your profile text, along with your pictures, is the first impression of you. Here we explain what you should pay attention to in order to arouse interest in your suggestions.
Rendezvous? Au revoir!
Ending a date is uncomfortable. But sometimes there’s just no other option. And that’s okay. Here are a few approaches to remain fair and honest.
BDSM breakup – But with fairness and respect
A breakup is never pleasant, whether BDSM is involved or not. But how do I best end things when it’s no longer working out? A brief guide.
How to find out if someone is into BDSM
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
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