What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
Session: it’s time to play!
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BDSM basics
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Sadism: The second S in BDSM
Sadism refers to the often sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain. Where does it come from and how is sadism practiced in BDSM?
Masochism: The M in BDSM
Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?
Discipline – The first D in BDSM
The D in BDSM stands for “Discipline,” among other things, and similar to Dominance, it involves following rules. But where is the difference?
Perverse – wrong, twisted, unacceptable?
The term “perverse” originally means “turned around” or “reversed”. The adjective is often used in a sexual context.
Dominance: Something like leadership quality?
Dominance is one of the six major areas and, along with “Discipline,” is behind the D in BDSM. And yet, dominance can manifest itself in various ways.
Aftercare – What it comes down to
Aftercare refers to the mutual psychological and emotional support of the players immediately after a BDSM session by talking about and reflecting on the experience.
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