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From Munich with love…
How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.
Dealing with a break-up: Goodbye my BDSM lover
Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?
Help, the person I like is not kinky!
Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Sought, found, married! Interview with our users
“Deviance aims to help BDSM-interested individuals who hide their desires from each other to connect. But what are the experiences?”
Your profile text – How to type right!
In online dating, your profile text, along with your pictures, is the first impression of you. Here we explain what you should pay attention to in order to arouse interest in your suggestions.
Rendezvous? Au revoir!
Ending a date is uncomfortable. But sometimes there’s just no other option. And that’s okay. Here are a few approaches to remain fair and honest.
BDSM breakup – But with fairness and respect
A breakup is never pleasant, whether BDSM is involved or not. But how do I best end things when it’s no longer working out? A brief guide.
BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
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