Finally! The feature you’ve all been waiting for is here! With Deviance Search, you can now filter profiles by identification, orientation, kinks, and more.
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Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!
Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
Deviance Premium: How does the payment work?
You’ve decided on a premium membership? Great! Here’s how to manage your subscription and settings.
What do the buttons under the profiles mean?
Probably you’ve seen it since the introduction of the premium features: Instead of two buttons, there are now five buttons under each profile suggestion. But what do they mean?
Here they are: new features for your kinky dating!
Finally: The Deviance Premium features are here! Four new functions to increase your chances of exciting kinky encounters. Here’s how.
From Munich with love…
How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.
Dealing with a break-up: Goodbye my BDSM lover
Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?
Help, the person I like is not kinky!
Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Sought, found, married! Interview with our users
“Deviance aims to help BDSM-interested individuals who hide their desires from each other to connect. But what are the experiences?”
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