Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
Getting off on consent in 5 steps
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6 questions to ask before playing
You’re not in top shape every day. Physically and psychologically. 6 questions that will help make your BDSM session a successful experience.
Session: it’s time to play!
What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Keeps its impact inside: The punishment book
A punishment book can be used within a BDSM relationship to record any misbehavior. The submissive person usually enters these themselves.
The collar: fashion accessory or symbol?
Whether you buy your own collar or whether the awarding of the collar is a meaningful act between the people in question is up to each person.
Chastity. Or: “a never cuming story”
In BDSM chastity play, the bottom participant abstains from sex, masturbation, and/or orgasms at the request of the top participant.
10-points to check: Is my Dom dangerous?
Some people exhibit reckless and manipulative behavior in BDSM relationships. Find out if your Dom is dangerous with this self-check.
“You are my Toy!”
A human Toy comes into play when the Top wishes it. The most important task is to satisfy the person playing the Top.
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