Degradation is one of the most common BDSM clichés we encounter, but what exactly does it entail and what does it actually mean?
Degradation: Between sinking into the ground and flying high
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Blindfold – A popular sensory deprivation
What is a blindfold and why is it so popular in BDSM? We explain to you the attraction behind the sensory robbery.
Sub drop: reaching the lowest point
Despite all precautions, BDSM doesn’t always go smoothly. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a sub drop and what causes it.
STI and STD Part III: Misconceptions and clichés
There are a lot of misconceptions about sexually transmitted infections. It’s time to clear up a few, because the best prevention is still education.
Like a boss – 6 approaches to handle a drop
If the mood shifts during BDSM, it can lead to a drop. We’ll show you 6 possible approaches on how to deal with this situation.
Candles in BDSM: things to consider
Candles are used in BDSM within wax play. But be careful! There are several things to consider when buying and using them.
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
Everyday family life & BDSM – 8 ideas for kinks despite kids
When there are bottles or Lego bricks lying around everywhere at home, it’s not so easy to get kinky. Here are 8 tips to ensure that kink doesn’t fall short in family life.
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
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