Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
read more
Deviance
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
“It’s the rage that motivates me to stand up for the BDSM community.” Why Lea, web and app developer in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
How to sub: 12 tips for beginners
You want to experience BDSM as a Sub, give away control, and be dominated? The following tips for novice subs will help you with that.
How to dom: 12 tips for beginners
You’re a beginner and want to explore BDSM as a Dom, taking control? The following tips for Dom beginners from Gentledom.de can help you with that.
Playing for the first time: tips and advice
You can hardly wait to finally try out BDSM. But as the first time gets closer and closer, you realize that there are still many unanswered questions.
How kink shaming creates additional barriers
Kink shaming describes the devaluation of a person based on their sexual preferences and is also frequently encountered within the BDSM community.
The inner struggle
Can I find this hot? Am I allowed to enjoy it? Blogger Katharina-Sophie from Sub-Space on inner struggle and societal chains.
How to put on Latex
Those who have ever tried on the shiny material know: Putting on latex is anything but easy. Here you will learn how to tame even the toughest fabric.
#NormalizeBDSM
BDSM is sick? No, says blogger Katharina-Sophie and demands: Normalize BDSM! However, some vanillas may see it differently.
Share the article
This might also interest you
Venus 2025: Here’s what we found for you
Glitter canes, kinky furniture, streaming trends, and new highlights of the fetish scene: our impressions from the kinky Venus 2025!
Who let the dogs out? The Kink Report 2025 is here!
Why is Tuesday the hottest day of the week? And why is it really the Subs who dominate? The first Deviance Kink Report reveals it. An anonymous analysis of over 22,000 profiles with surprising results. Take a look!
here&now at the KitKat Club: Photography as lived performance
On August 9 2025, the KitKat Club opened its doors for the vernissage here&now by Sahin Dellemann and transformed into a space where projections, prints, fabrics, skin, sound, and movement collided. In our preview coverage, we had already announced that this would not be a classic exhibition. And that is…
Kinky together: The new group feature is here!
Whether it’s a steady play partner crew, a wild meet-up squad, party companions, or a spontaneous session circle: with the group feature, you can now fantasize, tie, or simply think dirty with more than just one person, live and together.
Photography in a state of intensity: here&now at the KitKat Club
Most people have probably heard of the legendary KitKat Club in Berlin – a place where kink, art, and body culture meet, standing as a symbol of radical freedom. That’s exactly how photographer and filmmaker Sahin Dellemann describes it. And it’s there, on August 9, that Dellemann will present his…
Small Penis Humiliation – Because after all size does (not) matter
If you’ve ever browsed through BDSM forums or erotic bios on social media, you may have come across the term SPH. It stands for Small Penis Humiliation, a kink that centers around the intentional humiliation of a man or penis-owning person for having a (supposedly) small penis. While it may…
BDSM is not the opposite of love
Normally, we at Deviance write in an explanatory, educational, and sometimes entertaining way. But today, I need something else: a little writing therapy. For those who don’t know me: I’m Marina, and I founded Deviance a few years ago. Explaining is close to our hearts, especially when it comes to…
Feminization: Fetish, roleplay, and hidden critique of the patriarchy?
Feminization describes a BDSM roleplay that plays with gender roles and power dynamics. But isn’t that actually misogynistic?
Playparty – A kinky playground for exploration
Playparty: An event for BDSM and fetish where people play, explore, and observe. What happens there, who can attend, and what should be considered?
Courage for BDSM: How to master your coming out with ease
A guide for your BDSM coming out: tips for self-acceptance, the right time and place, and support for a respectful conversation.