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The term “Slave” in the context of BDSM
Why “Slave” should no longer be used as a BDSM term in public spaces. A guest post from blogger and Twitterer Poly.
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
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How to sub: 12 tips for beginners
You want to experience BDSM as a Sub, give away control, and be dominated? The following tips for novice subs will help you with that.
How to dom: 12 tips for beginners
You’re a beginner and want to explore BDSM as a Dom, taking control? The following tips for Dom beginners from Gentledom.de can help you with that.
Playing for the first time: tips and advice
You can hardly wait to finally try out BDSM. But as the first time gets closer and closer, you realize that there are still many unanswered questions.
How kink shaming creates additional barriers
Kink shaming describes the devaluation of a person based on their sexual preferences and is also frequently encountered within the BDSM community.
The inner struggle
Can I find this hot? Am I allowed to enjoy it? Blogger Katharina-Sophie from Sub-Space on inner struggle and societal chains.
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