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Why some people live their kinks 24/7
In a 24/7 relationship, a kink or power imbalance is lived day and night. That’s okay as long as the dominant part has only the best intentions for both.
What is a drop and why does it happen?
A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.
Mindful bondage art: Shibari
Shibari is a special style of sexual bondage in which people are tied up in complicated patterns and are rather quiet.
The term Hotwife or Cuckoldress
Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance.
Ageplay – innocent game or perverted?
Ageplay represents a BDSM role-playing game in which the participants pretend to be a different age than they actually are. Particularly popular: DDLG
Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?
Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.
Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean
A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.
How to find out if someone is into BDSM
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
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