When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
Queer: a change of perspective
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Instinctive, animalistic, dominant: Primal Predator
A Primal Predator in a BDSM game acts like an animal, following its instincts. Find out what kind of thrill lies behind it here.
Noble pleasures: Exploring the prince’s wand
The prince’s qand is a subtype of so-called urethral plugs and is used for the sexual stimulation of the urethra in people with a penis.
How to get covered properly
" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
The blackmailing game
In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
Candles in BDSM: things to consider
Candles are used in BDSM within wax play. But be careful! There are several things to consider when buying and using them.
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
How to find the right strapon
Finding the right strapon in the jungle of options isn’t always easy. Femdom and Deviance author Lynn gives tips on how to find the right model.
Session: it’s time to play!
What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
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