Whether you buy your own collar or whether the awarding of the collar is a meaningful act between the people in question is up to each person.
The collar: fashion accessory or symbol?
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Gag – Speech is silver, silence is gold
A gag prevents a person from speaking or screaming, but the appeal lies mainly in the humiliation through drooling and ridiculous sounds.
Sperm stopper – pleasure through closure
A sperm stopper is a penis plug that prevents semen from leaving the penis during ejaculation. Explore why some find this arousing.
Bondage tape – Non stop fun on a roll
What is bondage tape? Why do you use it in BDSM and what do you have to consider when playing with it? A small introduction to this popular bondage alternative.
Monoglove: Everything bagged
A monoglove resembles a sack pulled over the arms, restricting a person’s mobility. But what should one consider when buying one?
Tease and denial – Finding pleasure in frustration
Whether as a heightened state of sexual arousal or as a means of erotic torment and humiliation, tease and denial can be used in diverse ways, even outside of the BDSM context.
Love balls: training of a special kind
Love balls are a sex toy and medical aid for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles of people with vaginas, which can also bring erotic benefits.
Chastity for beginners: silicone cock lock
The silicone cock lock is a relative of the chastity cage and chastity belt, but much better suited for beginners interested in chastity.
Latex: what is the material all about?
Anyone delving into the BDSM and fetish realm can’t avoid stumbling upon latex sooner or later. The applications are diverse. But what’s actually behind the cult?
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