Having control without controlling. Respect and be respected. As well-known as the role of the Dom is within and outside the BDSM world, it is also complex.
Dom: short for dominant
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Figging – pretty spicy!
What does a piece of ginger have to do with sex and BDSM? Deviance explains what figging is all about and what to consider.
Playing on a thin edge: knife play
Knife play sounds like big knives and dangerous play. How exactly this looks in BDSM and where to start can be found here.
Punish me! The punishment in BDSM
Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.
Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life
Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?
Sensory Deprivation: BDSM completely out of senses
Sensory Deprivation refers to an popular aspect of BDSM in which the five senses are manipulated, restricted, or taken away.
Degradee – Sinking into the ground with pleasure
In BDSM, a Degradee is a Bottom who enjoys degradation and humiliation. Find out more about the role and what the game looks like here.
Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code
The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.
Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean
A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.
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