When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
A love letter to the sense of shame
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Fantasy & experience
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
Constant dripping brings the moan: wax play
Candlelight has always been associated with romance and the bedroom. So, it was only a matter of time before people started playing with wax.
Attention, this is a control! About orgasms and sensitivity
Controlling your orgasm is a bit like baking frozen pizza. At some point you just have the feeling when the time is right.
The inner struggle
Can I find this hot? Am I allowed to enjoy it? Blogger Katharina-Sophie from Sub-Space on inner struggle and societal chains.
Why hands are the best toys
BDSM author Margaux Navara regularly presents new toys. Among them, there’s one that almost everyone already has and doesn’t even cost anything: our hands.
The last fantasy
There is BDSM with beatings, restraints, or pain. And there is submission. As an author, Margaux Navara is allowed to fantasize, she says. And has provided Deviance with one of these fantasies.
The pleasure of staging
Not the clothing dominates, but the person. However, staging a session and doling oneself up for it can make you forget about everyday life, says Femdom and author Lynn.
The Tinder Cuckold
A sudden breakup, a Tinder acquaintance, and a breakfast with much dismay. How Anna became a Sub thanks to a Cuckold she couldn’t shake off anymore.
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