Getting off on consent in 5 steps
Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
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BDSM dating
Regular dating is annoying enough, but BDSM dating can get really complicated. Not only is it more difficult to find a truly compatible partner, but there's also a lot more to consider. Deviance has compiled the most important tips and tricks, clarifies the essential rules, and shows you how to protect yourself. Due to societal prejudices and enforced discretion, BDSM practitioners face significant challenges in finding the perfect play partner. Deviance provides tips on everything related to dating in the BDSM area. This ranges from creating the right dating profile to ensuring safety during the first shared session.
How to get covered properly
” ‘to cover’ in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because issues with dates can happen to anyone, regardless of sexual orientation […]
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6 questions to ask before playing
You’re not in top shape every day. Physically and psychologically. 6 questions that will help make your BDSM session a successful experience.
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8 tips for good profile pictures on Deviance
When online dating, your profile picture is crucial. How do I take a good selfie and how can I score points on a BDSM platform?
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How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
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10 red flags that Subs should pay attention to with Doms
There are specific red flags that can be observed again and again in submissive or dominant personalities. This article is dedicated to “Dangerous Dominants”.
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13 red flags for dating and relationships
Red flags are warning signs to watch out for in relationships and dating. Here are 13 red flags to pay special attention to in BDSM.
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8 red flags Doms should watch out for with Subs
When people talk about red flags in BDSM, they usually want to warn submissive people. But not all subs are lovely angels.
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Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
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16 questions to ask your date
Conversations are sometimes not an easy matter, especially on BDSM dates. Here are 16 questions that will put your date through their paces.
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Talking about preferences: “And what are you into?”
Talking about preferences, inclinations, and fetishes can be daunting, feel unfamiliar, and evoke feelings of shame. Here are seven ideas.
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8 points for your safety when dating
When two or more people engage in BDSM, the issue of personal safety should be anything but neglected.
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The best and safest locations for your first date
Dating location: The first date in BDSM always brings some difficulties with it. One of them is choosing a suitable location.
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BDSM symbols: Recognizable signs in everyday life
As is common in many subcultures, BDSM sympathizers also use symbols to identify themselves to like-minded people in everyday life. But which symbols mean what?
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The Ring of O – History and meaning
The Ring of O gained its importance with the film adaptation of the “Story of the O”. Today the ring is a symbol of BDSM adherents all over the world.
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Behind the shadows: What is FetLife actually?
You might have heard of FetLife before but couldn’t find it online? We’ll explain why.
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