You can hardly wait to finally try out BDSM. But as the first time gets closer and closer, you realize that there are still many unanswered questions.
Playing for the first time: tips and advice
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13 red flags for dating and relationships
Red flags are warning signs to watch out for in relationships and dating. Here are 13 red flags to pay special attention to in BDSM.
8 red flags Doms should watch out for with Subs
When people talk about red flags in BDSM, they usually want to warn submissive people. But not all subs are lovely angels.
Brat – nightmare or challenge?
Hardly any type is as controversial in the BDSM area as the role of the brat. Some are annoyed by the rebelliousness, others love the challenge.
What does polyamory have to do with BDSM?
Polyamory describes a form of love life very common in BDSM circles, where a person has, loves, and maintains relationships with multiple partners.
Total control: Master and Mistress
The role of a Master or Mistress refers to a person who consensually assumes ownership of another person with whom they are in a relationship.
The Middle perspective
The role of the Middle describes a person who identifies with a younger mindset, typically around the teenage age, or shows corresponding behavior.
Complete submission: Serf
In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
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