A tantalizing BDSM practice with a unique visual aspect: Wax play involves dripping or pouring hot wax onto bare skin.
It’s getting hot: wax play
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Practices
Spanking: beat on beat to ecstasy
Spanking is one of the most popular BDSM practices and describes hitting for the purpose of punishment or arousal. In particular, it refers to the spanking of the buttocks.
Attention, this is a control! About orgasms and sensitivity
Controlling your orgasm is a bit like baking frozen pizza. At some point you just have the feeling when the time is right.
Trust is good, but orgasm control is better
In BDSM, orgasm control refers to the prohibition, intentional delay, or enforcement of a partner’s orgasm.
Pretty edgy: Edging
Edging is a specific type of orgasm control in which a submissive person is repeatedly pushed to the limit of arousal.
Genital torture for men: Ballbusting / CBT
Ballbusting” or “Cock and Ball Torture” (“CBT” in short) is a form of play in which the penis and testicles are tormented.
Oral sex royal: queening or facesitting
There is hardly any other practice that allows for the demonstration of power and superiority with maximum pleasure for the dominant person like Queening, also known as Facesitting.
A short guide to prostate massage
A commonly practiced technique in the BDSM realm is prostate massage, also referred to as “milking”, as it allows for orgasm without penile stimulation.
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