Normally, we at Deviance write in an explanatory, educational, and sometimes entertaining way. But today, I need something else: a little writing therapy. For those who don’t know me: I’m Marina, and I founded Deviance a few years ago. Explaining is close to our...
TPE means total power exchange in BDSM relationships. Consent, responsibility, and clear communication are even more important here.
In a 24/7 relationship, a kink or power imbalance is lived day and night. That’s okay as long as the dominant part has only the best intentions for both.
Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?
Labels provide security, and Germans in particular are known for wanting to standardize everything and call it by name. Why this can sometimes be annoying in BDSM…
“Deviance aims to help BDSM-interested individuals who hide their desires from each other to connect. But what are the experiences?”
A breakup is never pleasant, whether BDSM is involved or not. But how do I best end things when it’s no longer working out? A brief guide.
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.
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Most people have probably heard of the legendary KitKat Club in Berlin – a place where kink, art, and body culture meet, standing as a symbol of radical freedom. That’s exactly how photographer and filmmaker Sahin Dellemann describes it. And it’s there, on August 9, that Dellemann will present his…
If you’ve ever browsed through BDSM forums or erotic bios on social media, you may have come across the term SPH. It stands for Small Penis Humiliation, a kink that centers around the intentional humiliation of a man or penis-owning person for having a (supposedly) small penis. While it may…
Normally, we at Deviance write in an explanatory, educational, and sometimes entertaining way. But today, I need something else: a little writing therapy. For those who don’t know me: I’m Marina, and I founded Deviance a few years ago. Explaining is close to our hearts, especially when it comes to…
Feminization describes a BDSM roleplay that plays with gender roles and power dynamics. But isn’t that actually misogynistic?
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A guide for your BDSM coming out: tips for self-acceptance, the right time and place, and support for a respectful conversation.
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AB/DL is a fascinating kink where adults take on the role of babies. However, it is not about an interest in children.
TPE means total power exchange in BDSM relationships. Consent, responsibility, and clear communication are even more important here.
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