A flogger is mostly used as a sex toy in the BDSM realm. The active act of whipping is called flagellation.
Flogger – A whip even for beginners
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BDSM symbols: Recognizable signs in everyday life
As is common in many subcultures, BDSM sympathizers also use symbols to identify themselves to like-minded people in everyday life. But which symbols mean what?
Total control: Master and Mistress
The role of a Master or Mistress refers to a person who consensually assumes ownership of another person with whom they are in a relationship.
Humiliation through feminization: Sissy
Sissy is a BDSM role that follows a certain kink. A male-identified person undergoes feminization because they find it humiliating.
The Middle perspective
The role of the Middle describes a person who identifies with a younger mindset, typically around the teenage age, or shows corresponding behavior.
The basic of playing: Consent
Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.
Complete submission: Serf
In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
Parental Care: Mommy and Daddy
A Mommy or Daddy is a person who takes on a parental and nurturing role within the context of ageplay. Gender-neutral terms for this person include “Caregiver.”
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