Degraders are dominant people who enjoy degradation and humiliation. BDSM is about the erotic consensual humiliation of a bottom.
Degrader – Looking down
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The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?
D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.
Pet – Adopt don’t shop
When we talk about a Pet in BDSM, it’s less about our fluffy four-legged friends and more about the Bottom in pet play.
Hand and ankle cuffs: Simply efficient
Hand and ankle cuffs are among the most popular toys in BDSM. In this article, we provide an overview of the most common variants. Which one suits you?
Degradation: Between sinking into the ground and flying high
Degradation is one of the most common BDSM clichés we encounter, but what exactly does it entail and what does it actually mean?
Fetishist – It’s the love for details
A Fetishist is a lover of an object or material. For example, diapers, latex, or feet serve as fetishes for Fetishists.
Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?
Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?
Row, row, row the boat: paddle
What is a paddle anyway, and what is it used for in BDSM? We’ll explain what’s behind this popular impact tool.
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