Spanking is one of the most popular BDSM practices and describes hitting for the purpose of punishment or arousal. In particular, it refers to the spanking of the buttocks.
Spanking: beat on beat to ecstasy
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Pretty tricky: clamps and clips
Clamps for BDSM can be attached to various parts of the body. But beware: Not every body part is suitable for everyone when it comes to pain tolerance.
Flexible and adventurous: Kinkster
A Kinkster engages in kinky activities, practice SM practices, and is flexible in the expression of their desires without aligning with one side of the power dynamic.
Your backdoor’s new best friends: anal beads
The pleasure is particularly stimulating when anal beads are pulled out just before or during orgasm. Find out more here!
Masochist: Pleasure in pain and the joy of suffering
Experiencing power and violence can cause more sexual arousal for a masochist than the actual performance of sexual acts.
Slippery little helper: Lube
Oil-based lube, except for silicone oil, is not recommended as it can damage toys and condoms. It’s better to opt for water-based options.
Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
Brat – nightmare or challenge?
Hardly any type is as controversial in the BDSM area as the role of the brat. Some are annoyed by the rebelliousness, others love the challenge.
Trust is good, but orgasm control is better
In BDSM, orgasm control refers to the prohibition, intentional delay, or enforcement of a partner’s orgasm.
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