Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.
The basic of playing: Consent
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Complete submission: Serf
In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
Parental Care: Mommy and Daddy
A Mommy or Daddy is a person who takes on a parental and nurturing role within the context of ageplay. Gender-neutral terms for this person include “Caregiver.”
Bull and Cuckcake: The third wheel?
In BDSM, a bull or cuckcake is the third person in a cuckold dynamic who performs sexual acts with the dominant person.
9 repurposed items from the hardware store
Hardware stores offer amazing options, especially for those with smaller BDSM wallets, when it comes to repurposing items for kinky purposes.
Behind the shadows: What is FetLife actually?
You might have heard of FetLife before but couldn’t find it online? We’ll explain why.
Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.
A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.
How is a Top actually defined?
“Top” can refer to a role itself or the general status of a player – namely when they are “on top” and thus in control of the execution.
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