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BDSM dating

Regular dating is annoying enough, but BDSM dating can get really complicated. Not only is it more difficult to find a truly compatible partner, but there's also a lot more to consider. Deviance has compiled the most important tips and tricks, clarifies the essential rules, and shows you how to protect yourself. Due to societal prejudices and enforced discretion, BDSM practitioners face significant challenges in finding the perfect play partner. Deviance provides tips on everything related to dating in the BDSM area. This ranges from creating the right dating profile to ensuring safety during the first shared session.

by Deviance | A to Z, How to Deviance, Roles, Tips

The Deviance BDSM test: Finally know who you are in the dungeon

Dom, Sub or something else entirely? The Deviance BDSM test finds out in 36 questions which roles suit you best.

by Marina | How to Deviance, Tips

Using Deviance as a couple: here’s how it works!

Whether it’s a committed or casual relationship, a polycule, or a kinky friendship. Sometimes you want to add a third person. Or a fourth, a fifth. Or two new people at once. Or three. You know how it is. For everyone who feels the same, we have something for you…

by Marina | Kinky Life, Tips

Who let the dogs out? The Kink Report 2025 is here!

Why is Tuesday the hottest day of the week? And why is it really the Subs who dominate? The first Deviance Kink Report reveals it. An anonymous analysis of over 22,000 profiles with surprising results. Take a look!

by Marina | How to Deviance, Tips

Kinky together: The new group feature is here!

Whether it’s a steady play partner crew, a wild meet-up squad, party companions, or a spontaneous session circle: with the group feature, you can now fantasize, tie, or simply think dirty with more than just one person, live and together.

by Marina | Kinky Life, Tips

Call me! Six tips for successful video dating

Video dating is the perfect way to test the chemistry without wasting much time. Here are six sexy tips for spontaneous dates behind the screen.

by Marina | Kinky Life, Tips

Public Profiles: Your Deviance profile, now ready to share

Sometimes you want to show what you’ve got – and that’s exactly what you can do now with your new feature: Public Profiles! From now on, you can create a link to a preview of your Deviance profile and share it outside the platform. Whether it’s for curious matches, potential play partners, or simply to […]

by Marina | Kinky Life, Tips

And match! But how to go on? Online dating tipps from an expert

Who hasn’t been there? You have an interesting match, but the spark for the first message just isn’t there. A topic that the podcast “Die Kunst der Unvernunft” has also explored.

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Deviance as app: Your kinky matches always at your fingertips

Did you know that you can add Deviance as an app to your home screen? Find out how right here!

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Safe and sexy: Help make Deviance a safer place

Trustworthy fun: Every verified profile helps build a network of trusted members. Together, we’re making Deviance a platform where you can truly let go.

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Update: Deviance Search for even more fun! Filter and find!

Finally! The feature you’ve all been waiting for is here! With Deviance Search, you can now filter profiles by identification, orientation, kinks, and more.

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!

Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Deviance Premium: How does the payment work?

You’ve decided on a premium membership? Great! Here’s how to manage your subscription and settings.

by Deviance | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

What do the buttons under the profiles mean?

Probably you’ve seen it since the introduction of the premium features: Instead of two buttons, there are now five buttons under each profile suggestion. But what do they mean?

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Here they are: new features for your kinky dating!

Finally: The Deviance Premium features are here! Four new functions to increase your chances of exciting kinky encounters. Here’s how.

by Kitteh | Interviews, Stories

From Munich with love…

How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.

by Kitteh | Kinky Life, Tips

Dealing with a break-up: Goodbye my BDSM lover

Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?

by Kitteh | Kinky Life, Tips

Help, the person I like is not kinky!

Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.

by Kitteh | Interviews, Stories

Sought, found, married! Interview with our users

“Deviance aims to help BDSM-interested individuals who hide their desires from each other to connect. But what are the experiences?”

by Kitteh | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Your profile text – How to type right!

In online dating, your profile text, along with your pictures, is the first impression of you. Here we explain what you should pay attention to in order to arouse interest in your suggestions.