Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!
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In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.
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Conversations are sometimes not an easy matter, especially on BDSM dates. Here are 16 questions that will put your date through their paces.
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Talking about preferences, inclinations, and fetishes can be daunting, feel unfamiliar, and evoke feelings of shame. Here are seven ideas.
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Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.
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One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
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What if one partner expresses a desire to try BDSM fantasies? How do you go about it? A guide for BDSM beginners.
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