A guide for your BDSM coming out: tips for self-acceptance, the right time and place, and support for a respectful conversation.
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Deviance as a guest on Rein & Raus: How has the kink scene changed in four years?
The kink scene in transition: Is it a good thing that BDSM, kinks, and fetishes are increasingly entering the mainstream, or not? What opportunities and risks does this bring?
Who or what is actually the BDSM community?
When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?
Fetish party – A Kinky Nightfever
What is a fetish party? What happens there and how much does it have to do with BDSM? Can I play there too? Find out in this article what awaits you there.
So… how to get to a BDSM munch?
The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?
YKINMKBYKIO: I don’t understand it, but I like it!
YKINMKBYKIO stands for Your Kink is not my Kink but your Kink is okay. This is a basic principle of the BDSM community promoting tolerance.
Kitteh – Language-controlled writing offender
Crush a few taboos under Pleaser heels like smoked cigarettes after sex. Deviance author Kitteh on why she writes about BDSM.
KatKristall – Kinkucation with glitter
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
Lynn – From a dingy dungeon to a wine bar
“A refined evening among friends, who just happen to all be a bit kinky.” Why Lynn, author in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
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