Kink shaming describes the devaluation of a person based on their sexual preferences and is also frequently encountered within the BDSM community.
How kink shaming creates additional barriers
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Genital torture for men: Ballbusting / CBT
Ballbusting” or “Cock and Ball Torture” (“CBT” in short) is a form of play in which the penis and testicles are tormented.
Oral sex royal: queening or facesitting
There is hardly any other practice that allows for the demonstration of power and superiority with maximum pleasure for the dominant person like Queening, also known as Facesitting.
Riding crop – For discipline and order
The riding crop is typically intended as an instrument for a brief chastisement to correct misbehavior on the part of the submissive partner.
Under observation: Voyeur
In the literal sense of voyeurism, it is a crime. When we talk about deviance from voyeurs, as usual, we assume consent.
The pleasure of torture: Sadist
Exercising power and (consensual) violence can cause more sexual arousal in a sadist than the actual performance of sexual acts.
Jangled nerves: The Wartenberg wheel
In medicine, it’s hardly used anymore for hygienic reasons, but the Wartenberg wheel is experiencing a true renaissance in BDSM circles to deliberately induce pain stimuli.
Collars and cuddles: pet play
Pet play refers to erotic role-playing games where a typically submissive partner takes on the role of an animal. Popular choices include cats, dogs, and ponies.
What does polyamory have to do with BDSM?
Polyamory describes a form of love life very common in BDSM circles, where a person has, loves, and maintains relationships with multiple partners.
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