Like many other terms in the BDSM realm, “Brat-Tamer” can be taken literally. It’s a challenging role.
The taming of the shrew: Brat Tamer
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Dominance
Wannabe Dom: Delving into the realm of pretentious dominance
Entering the BDSM scene, both offline and online, you often come across the term ‘Wannabe Dom’. What does it mean?
Oral sex royal: queening or facesitting
There is hardly any other practice that allows for the demonstration of power and superiority with maximum pleasure for the dominant person like Queening, also known as Facesitting.
The pleasure of torture: Sadist
Exercising power and (consensual) violence can cause more sexual arousal in a sadist than the actual performance of sexual acts.
Total control: Master and Mistress
The role of a Master or Mistress refers to a person who consensually assumes ownership of another person with whom they are in a relationship.
Parental Care: Mommy and Daddy
A Mommy or Daddy is a person who takes on a parental and nurturing role within the context of ageplay. Gender-neutral terms for this person include “Caregiver.”
Bull and Cuckcake: The third wheel?
In BDSM, a bull or cuckcake is the third person in a cuckold dynamic who performs sexual acts with the dominant person.
The pleasure of staging
Not the clothing dominates, but the person. However, staging a session and doling oneself up for it can make you forget about everyday life, says Femdom and author Lynn.
How is a Top actually defined?
“Top” can refer to a role itself or the general status of a player – namely when they are “on top” and thus in control of the execution.
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