A Spanker enjoys beating others in erotic play. Find out here what the attraction behind this type of play is and who matches it.
Spanker – passionate Top with a knack for impact
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Roles
Ponyboy and Ponygirl: Beyond the tails and rides
Pony play is an animalistic aspect of BDSM. But what exactly is a Ponyboy or Ponygirl? In this article, we’ll shoot the breeze…
Spankee – whipping boy or girl by passion
A Spankee is a person who desires to be spanked for erotic reasons within the BDSM context. But what makes this so appealing?
Dom: short for dominant
Having control without controlling. Respect and be respected. As well-known as the role of the Dom is within and outside the BDSM world, it is also complex.
Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life
Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?
Degradee – Sinking into the ground with pleasure
In BDSM, a Degradee is a Bottom who enjoys degradation and humiliation. Find out more about the role and what the game looks like here.
Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean
A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.
Degrader – Looking down
Degraders are dominant people who enjoy degradation and humiliation. BDSM is about the erotic consensual humiliation of a bottom.
The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
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