Some people exhibit reckless and manipulative behavior in BDSM relationships. Find out if your Dom is dangerous with this self-check.
10-points to check: Is my Dom dangerous?
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Submissive
“You are my Toy!”
A human Toy comes into play when the Top wishes it. The most important task is to satisfy the person playing the Top.
Submission – The fine art of surrender
In exploring the concept of submission, one delves into the dynamics of power and trust within interpersonal relationships. A conscious decision to relinquish control or authority.
Masochist: Pleasure in pain and the joy of suffering
Experiencing power and violence can cause more sexual arousal for a masochist than the actual performance of sexual acts.
Humiliation through feminization: Sissy
Sissy is a BDSM role that follows a certain kink. A male-identified person undergoes feminization because they find it humiliating.
The Middle perspective
The role of the Middle describes a person who identifies with a younger mindset, typically around the teenage age, or shows corresponding behavior.
Complete submission: Serf
In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
The popular term “Sub”
The popular term Sub emphasizes the character components of bottom players. How the role is lived is highly individual. The most important thing is the attitude.
Bottom as an umbrella term
A bottom submits mentally or physically to one or more others. This refers more to the general status of the receiving part than to a specific type of playing.
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