FRIES – tastes good even without ketchup and mayo
“FRIES is one of many consent models in BDSM, alongside SSC and RACK, and is particularly a good guideline for beginners.”
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Beginner
As a beginner in BDSM, you not only have many questions but are also confronted with numerous unfamiliar terms. Gaining orientation and an overview in the colorful fetish world is not easy. The various content series at Deviance teach you everything you need to know as a beginner. Deviance takes you by the hand and introduces you to all topics related to latex, leather, and desire. Discover a colorful world of openness and adventurous spirit. At Deviance, you will learn the language and basics of BDSM and learn a lot about the followers of the fetish scene. Dive into the realms of BDSM.
Who or what is actually the BDSM community?
When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?
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Mindful bondage art: Shibari
Shibari is a special style of sexual bondage in which people are tied up in complicated patterns and are rather quiet.
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So… how to get to a BDSM munch?
The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?
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RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink
The RACK concept cannot be discussed without the SSC philosophy, as it questions the principles of the latter and emphasizes individual responsibility more strongly.
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SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual
With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.
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Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?
Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.
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How to find out if someone is into BDSM
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
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How to get covered properly
” ‘to cover’ in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because issues with dates can happen to anyone, regardless of sexual orientation […]
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How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
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How to sub: 12 tips for beginners
You want to experience BDSM as a Sub, give away control, and be dominated? The following tips for novice subs will help you with that.
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How to dom: 12 tips for beginners
You’re a beginner and want to explore BDSM as a Dom, taking control? The following tips for Dom beginners from Gentledom.de can help you with that.
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Playing for the first time: tips and advice
You can hardly wait to finally try out BDSM. But as the first time gets closer and closer, you realize that there are still many unanswered questions.
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Limits: hard and soft, but always important
In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.
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The inner struggle
Can I find this hot? Am I allowed to enjoy it? Blogger Katharina-Sophie from Sub-Space on inner struggle and societal chains.
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Of wishing and wanting
Wishes and BDSM fantasies can sometimes be quite wild. However, author Margaux Navara wishes especially for beginners that these are not fulfilled at first.
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The basic of playing: Consent
Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.
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What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
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How to start with BDSM as a couple
What if one partner expresses a desire to try BDSM fantasies? How do you go about it? A guide for BDSM beginners.
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Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.
A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.
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