In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
The blackmailing game
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Dominance
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Ruined orgasm – Hands off!
A ruined orgasm is a practice where a person experiences climax without satisfaction. Find out here how to ruin an orgasm.
Tease and denial – Finding pleasure in frustration
Whether as a heightened state of sexual arousal or as a means of erotic torment and humiliation, tease and denial can be used in diverse ways, even outside of the BDSM context.
Chastity for beginners: silicone cock lock
The silicone cock lock is a relative of the chastity cage and chastity belt, but much better suited for beginners interested in chastity.
FLR – When the woman is the boss at home
FLR is the abbreviation for “Female Led Relationship,” a type of relationship in which, by agreement, a dominant woman is in charge.
How to dom: 12 tips for beginners
You’re a beginner and want to explore BDSM as a Dom, taking control? The following tips for Dom beginners from Gentledom.de can help you with that.
Dominance: Something like leadership quality?
Dominance is one of the six major areas and, along with “Discipline,” is behind the D in BDSM. And yet, dominance can manifest itself in various ways.
10-points to check: Is my Dom dangerous?
Some people exhibit reckless and manipulative behavior in BDSM relationships. Find out if your Dom is dangerous with this self-check.
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