Although “Dom” is gender-neutral, the term is still often associated with male dominance, which is why the specific term “Femdom” emerged.
Femdom – Under female leadership
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Keeps its impact inside: The punishment book
A punishment book can be used within a BDSM relationship to record any misbehavior. The submissive person usually enters these themselves.
Discipline – The first D in BDSM
The D in BDSM stands for “Discipline,” among other things, and similar to Dominance, it involves following rules. But where is the difference?
The taming of the shrew: Brat Tamer
Like many other terms in the BDSM realm, “Brat-Tamer” can be taken literally. It’s a challenging role.
Brat – nightmare or challenge?
Hardly any type is as controversial in the BDSM area as the role of the brat. Some are annoyed by the rebelliousness, others love the challenge.
Collars and cuddles: pet play
Pet play refers to erotic role-playing games where a typically submissive partner takes on the role of an animal. Popular choices include cats, dogs, and ponies.
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